WHY? I AM SELFISH !

From our childhood we tend to love the things we like. We get attached with them but this is reality that each and everything we love will never remain with us. It can be toys, our school friends, our home etc. and there are so many things, we get attached to but we have to leave them anyhow whenever adverse situation comes.

In this love and attachment we feel sad, maybe so many days. Here I choose to get friendly with the things as per conditions allow but not too much love. I know I have to leave this thing or person one day. So I became selfish and get attached to myself and tried to love myself. I make myself in such a way that I do not feel much attachment or love someone or something in extreme.

In the childhood, I liked my brother’s bicycle I thought I would get his cycle when he would go to college. And thank God I got his cycle after one year. I loved it, cleaned it every day and did oiling every day. I used it as much as possible. But one day one of my school friends came with ranger cycle. Off course, his parents bought for him. Its speed was quiet more than my ordinary cycle and looks were amazing.

Most of the boys and girls including me loved his cycle. Most of the boys including me asked our parents to buy ranger cycle. It was so much expensive. I did not get this cycle and neither of my class friends. I used my ordinary cycle for all my school days.

In my college days again same things happen not only with bike but everything. We loved someone else's things and desire to get that. I while reminding my school days, was quite clear that we have to use the things we have. We have to clean them, use them, praise for them. Nothing will change if we get the things we desire, we have ordinary things to use. I didn’t feel sad when leaving college or college friends.

During my first job days, I did not have bike nor cycle. I have to travel to bus, metro or auto. I was not attached much with any of them but I talk to most of my friends still. I’m still attached to myself while most of the people feel happy with being other person. I taught myself to be happy with myself. To be happy we have to be selfish. It does not mean we should not help others but not sacrificing our happiness. I think today’s people are cruel with whom we you have to be selfish. In this world if we will not think of ourselves first then people will crush us and at every moment they will harm us. We should live for our own self and we should think of our own happiness first.

It is absolutely good to be selfish to survive in this world. Any selfish person is someone who thinks about his good or bad more than anything else. To have a healthy and happy life, we have to prioritise ourselves first.

‘Swantah Sukhay’ it is a word in Indian mythology. I am a great fan of it. It means we should do with what our inner soul feel satisfied. But for us the real challenge is to know what makes us satisfied. Everyone is working to fulfil his own desires. So, we can also chase our dreams and to not give importance to narrow/orthodox minded people.

But selfies does not mean…

To be happy while leaving other crying

Hurting someone intentionally

Cheating your partner for your own personal benefit

Leaving someone in their bad times

These are some of the sinful acts a person can attempt.

Now, how I decide the limits of selfishness. It is quite easy. If I take any decision with involving other people and I feel that the decision might be selfish act or may harm other person in any manner then just imagine myself in that other person’s position, would I like to get treated the way I decided earlier if answer is no then step back and try to find a way out keeping in mind that i can’t make everyone happy without hurting anyone.

Similar thing can happen when we get attached to any persons. We may disturb our studies or job for the sake of that person. And this leads us to be sad. But here, we have to love ourself get attached to ourself to be happy. For this we have to be selfish. We have to love our work rather our office or our colleagues or any person.

Sometimes people say that I am introvert. But I love myself and my work so I want to do it every day. I steal time from spending in gossips to spend it on myself and doing my work. In the book who moved my cheese I learned that we should not be comfortable at the time of getting any job or a loving partner. Rather we should be ready to move when we are fired from job or cheated by partner. And we should not feel sad but be prepared to face any consequence. For the job we have to skill up ourselves everyday even staying in job and for the person we should give time to our loving partner by stealing time from our colleagues are from the people who matter less to us. For this we have to be selfish. So I read, write, learn new things, travel, do job etc. in my time. In my first job I come early from office and skill up myself which leads me to switch for new job. Though, my colleagues say that I’m selfish. Yes I am selfish!